what your teacher does after they send you a long letter with feedback?
Here is the answer: they don’t sleep!
Critiquing is a relationship. It is a bond that has to start and finish with respect and humility and trust. When I send feedback–especially the kind that invites the author to think in new ways–I trust that they know I am on their side. I trust that they know I care about their work and story and life. I trust that they won’t take my words and either make a list or throw their story away.
After I press send, I worry. I have had bad critiques. I know how dismantling they can be.
Today, I hope all my students are feeling great about their stories. I hope they have lightbulb moments. I hope they are taking notes. I hope they all know how much I respect them and their work.
When I wrote those letters, that is what I hoped for.